The Marrieage Relationship
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-4
The primary application of this Scripture is the marriage relationship in the bedroom, but the principles being applied go far beyond the bedroom.
I have counseled couples with a principle that, if applied, will make for a great marriage. It is simply this: in every aspect of your relationship ask yourself the question, “How can I help my spouse be more comfortable and more secure?” Then ask your spouse, “How can I help you.”
The breakdown in relationship comes when we are thinking, “My spouse doesn’t care about what I need or want, they just have their own agenda.” As long as it is about “me” and what “I need,” or what “I want,” the relationship will be damaged.
Being married is about more than sharing a house and filing joint income tax returns. Being married means that I have become united to another person and whatever affects them affects me because we are one. We must give our spouse the same care and respect we would any other member of our body.
Purpose today to focus on the fact that your body, in fact your whole person, is not your own, you belong to another. Then ask how you can make the life of the other in your life better.
Prayer: This is a tough one Father. I have so many needs that I don’t feel are being met that it is hard to look at the needs of my spouse. Grant me the grace to look through your eyes. I ask in the name of Christ. Amen.
Walk A Little Further...
Message: Being married is about more than sharing a house and filing joint income tax returns. Being married means that I have become united to another person and whatever affects them affects me because we are one. We must give our spouse the same care and respect we would any other member of our body.
Affirmation: I have learned to give my spouse the same respect, concern and consideration that I would like to have.
Reflection: Give some thought to what it would mean to you to ask yourself, "How can I help my spouse be more comfortable and more secure?"